Young people’s problems
Young people’s problems.
Everybody
says your youth is probably the best time of young life, that being young means
romance, love, new discoveries & so on. But it is also the most difficult
time because you have to make some very important decisions, which will
influence all your future life.
Things are
not easy nowadays even for adults, but for teen-ages, which have to find their
own place in society, it’s very difficult. It’s necessary not only to adapt to
your society, but also to be confident about your position in 5, 10 or 20
year’s time.
For your
future it is essential to have a good job. Every girl or boy leaving secondary
school should choose an institution of higher education, or if he or she
doesn’t want to study any more, choose a job straight way.
But even if
you are studying, you need money of your own to pay for extra clothes, tapes, and
books. If something the problem.
Emotional
problems for young people can be far more difficult than financial ones. The
typical teenager problem is drug-habit. Some young man use drugs, because they
think that will be cool guys. But they don’t understand that it’s wrong. Some
of them can’t stop that, and they become dependent on drugs. And they commit
different serious crimes, because they need some money to buy drugs.
Youth is
also the time to meet your first love. It is, of course, wonderful, but, as it
is widely known that first love often has an unhappy end, this also increases
young people’s problems.
We also
face the problem how to spend our free time. We can do it in different ways.
Some of teen-ages spend their free time in different nightclubs. Other young
people spend their free time in the streets.
Another
typical problem for most of the teen-ages is problem with their parents. Leo
Tolstoy said: “All families are happy in the similar way and unhappy in its own
way”. And happiness or unhappiness of any family mostly depends on relations in
it.
So many
families so many family relations. Each family establishes its own relations in
its own way. It has its own traditions & customs & its own unwritten
constitution including rights & duties of every member of the family. The
level of democracy is also different in different families, which mostly
depends on the viewpoints of adults usually not coinciding with a child’s point
of view. So the problem of misunderstanding becomes urgent. Some people can it
generation gap. It as a rule sharpens as soon as a child approaches his or her
difficult teens. And both sides (parents & children) should be patient
& tactful & it’s the only way to settle down all the problems &
stay friends.
Parents say
that it’s difficult to discipline children. But experts state that parents will
get the best results if they try to prevent or stop misbehavior in natural,
logical & when possible fun ways. Here are some pieces of advice to help
them keep their kids in line.
So, as you see, it is very
difficult to be young nowadays, as, need, it always was. But you only can be
young once, & some wonderful things can happen only when you’re young. So,
it is be to enjoy youth while it lasts
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When a Young Person is Suicidal
Navigating the teen years
safely and healthily can be a real challenge. It’s an emotional journey,
This intense exploration of values, of sexuality, of career hopes
and independence. At the same time, there are more responsibilities on all
sides: school, family, work and relationships.
The burden of trying to balance personal discoveries and dreams
against other people’s expectations can be enormous. For some, the pressure can
become painful and overwhelming. The stress of being young is often not
understood or even recognized, and that can make a person feel alone and
isolated. Because problems are being confronted for the first time, they can
appear huge and impossible to solve. These feelings can make a friend very
vulnerable to thoughts of suicide. Suicide can appear to be an impulsive act.
But it’s a complicated process, and a person may think about it for some time
before taking action. It’s estimated that 8 out of 10people who attempt suicide
or die by suicide hinted about or made some mention of their plans.
Often, those warning signs
are directed at a friend. Recognizing the warning signs is one thing; knowing
what to do with that information is another. Suicide was a taboo subject for a
very long time. Even talking about it is still difficult for most people. But
being able to talk about suicide can help save a life. Learning about suicide
is the first
Step in the communication
process.
SUICIDE IS ABOUT ESCAPE NOT DEATH
Suicide is about escape.
Someone, who thinks seriously about suicide is experiencing pain that is so
crushing, they feel that only death will stop it.
Most people consider suicide at some time in their life. There is
nothing wrong with having these thoughts, or with acknowledging them. It is
when these thoughts begin to take shape as plans that there is cause for alarm.
Like adults, young people become depressed. But because they don’t behave the
way depressed adults do, they may be dismissed as simply “acting out”. Or being
rebellious. Emotional problems or conflicts about sexual orientation can also
go unnoticed. Being depressed, while struggling with the challenges and
pressures of being young, can create suicidal feelings.
WHAT ARE THE SIGNS
Most people who consider
suicide are not determined to die. They are undecided about whether to live or
die, so they may take risks and leave it to someone else to save them. Warning
signs may be their way of asking for help or revealing the seriousness of their
situation. Warning signs can be very subtle. They can also be as obvious as
someone saying, “You won’t be seeing me any more.”
Here are some common
warning signs:
• Sudden change in
behavior (for better or worse)
• Withdrawal from friends
and activities,
• Lack of interest
• Increased use of alcohol
and other drugs
• Recent loss of a friend,
family member or parent, especially if they died by suicide
• Conflicting feelings or
a sense of shame about being gay or straight
• Mood swings, emotional
outbursts, high level of irritability or aggression
• Feelings of hopelessness
• Preoccupation with
death, giving away valued possessions
• Talk of suicide: e.g.
“no one cares if I live or die”
• Making a plan or
increased risk taking
• Writing or drawing about
suicide (in a diary, for example)
• “Hero worship” of people
who have died by suicide
Remember that there is no
ultimate list of warning signs. It may be right to be concerned about someone
simply because their behavior is out of character. Sudden shifts in a person’s
attitude or actions can alert friends to potential problems.
WHAT YOU CAN DO
The only person who can stop a person from considering suicide is
the suicidal person. But you can help them to reconsider and seek other
solutions. The most important thing is to listen. Take your friend seriously.
People who share their suicide plans often demand secrecy from their friends.
But they’re usually hoping that their friend will stop them by getting help.
When a life is at risk, requests for confidentiality must be ignored.
Don’t be afraid to be the
first to mention suicide. Talking about suicide openly does not increase the
risk. Ask if your friend is suicidal. Bringing the subject into the open can
bring relief.
You can help by:
• Really listening,
without judging not challenging, or becoming angry and shocked
• Finding ways to break
through the silence and secrecy
• Asking if they have
plans or have made prior attempts
• Helping them find ways
to lessen their pain
• Helping them see
positive possibilities in their future
• guiding them to other sources of help as soon as possible, such as
a counselor or other.
Trusted adult or community
crisis lines listed in your telephone book.
No one can
solve another person’s problems. But sympathy and support can help; knowing
that someone else has faced similar tough times and survived can help a
suicidal person see a light at the end of a very dark tunnel.
Used
material:
http://www.cmha.ca/english/info_centre/mh_pamphlets/mh_pamphlet_30.pdf.
TALLINN PEDAGOGICAL
COLLEGE
Department of social
workers
Olesya Jakubovskaya
STv-12
Young people’s problems.
The abstract.
The teacher: Lii Kalnapenk
Tallinn 2004
1.
Influence-влияние
2.
Confident-уверенный
3.
Essential-необходимо
4.
Commit-совершить
5.
Increases-увеличивает
6.
Establishes-устанавливает
7.
Coinciding-совпадение
8.
Urgent-частый
9.
Generation gap-промежуток
поколения
10.
Sharpens-обостряется
11.
Approaches-подходы
12.
Tactful-тактичный
13.
Patient-терпеливый
15.
Misbehavior-проступок
16.
Challenge-вызов
17.
Exploration-исследование
18.
Values-ценности
19.
Burden-бремя
20.
Expectations-ожидания
21.
Enormous-огромный
22.
Overwhelming-подавляющий
23.
Confronted-сопоставленный
24.
Vulnerable-уязвимый
25.
Estimated-оцененный
26.
Attempt-попытка
27.
Hinted-намекнул
28.
Mention-упоминание
29.
Directed- направленный
30.
Recognizing-признание
31.
Experiencing- преодоление
32.
Consider-рассмотреть
33.
Acknowledging-подтверждение
34.
Shape-форма
35.
Behave-вести себя
36.
Rebellious-непослушный
37.
Struggling-борьба
38.
Determined-определенный
39.
Revealing-раскрытие
40.
Withdrawal-изъятие
41.
Lack-недостаток
42.
Counselor-адвокат
43.
Gay-веселый
44.
Swings-колебание
45.
Outbursts-вспышки
46.
Irritability-раздражительность
47.
Preoccupation-озабоченность
48.
“Heroworship”-поклонение
49.
Shifts-изменения
50.
Demand-требование